Anne Collins, our Resident Slimming Expert, is one of Ireland's most experienced weight-loss consultants. Over the past 19 years, she has helped thousands of men, women & teenagers, including many suffering from severe obesity.
DON'T KEEP FEELING GUILTY... Question: What makes us women miserable, keeps us fat and is very harmful to our long term health and happiness? Answer: Guilt!
Many of us women spend half our lives feeling guilty about something or other.
Why? Because it's forced on us. Who by? By everyone! Our husband makes us feel guilty about not having enough sex. Our children make us feel guilty for not driving them everywhere and for not buying them the most expensive trainers. Our parents make us feel guilty for not living up to their standards and our in-laws make us feel guilty about everything else!
To make matters worse, our sisters make us feel guilty for not baby-sitting their children and our neighbours make us feel guilty about the state of our house and garden. Finally, every time we open a magazine or newspaper, we see nothing but beautiful women with perfect bodies. No wonder we feel guilty about our own size and shape.
See what I mean? We're drowning in guilt. It clings to us morning noon and night. Does it affect men in the same way? No. Why not? Because they don't have the same amount of responsibility to live up to, as we do. I mean, once they come in from work, they are finished for the day while we have another three or four hours work to do. If we have a baby, we can be up all night.
Guilt is bad for us! Why? Because it makes us feel bad about ourselves. It makes us feel depressed, inadequate and miserable. Result? We seek comfort in eating rubbish, which only makes us more fat and more unhappy.
Well girls, it's time to stop! It's time to stop carrying all this guilt around on your shoulders and start enjoying life for a change. For example, if you really don't feel like having sex, don't waste time feeling guilty about it! I mean, what's the big deal? It's not a hanging offence. Likewise, if you don't want to spend a fortune on your children's trainers, don't feel guilty about it! And if you just can't please your parents, or in-laws, or sisters, or neighbours then don't worry about it. Remember: there's no pleasing some people and no amount of feeling guilty about the situation is going to help them, or you!
The same goes for your appearance. Okay, you may be overweight – but so what? As long as you're not too overweight, you're absolutely fine. Besides, real beauty always comes from inside. I mean, there's nothing more beautiful and enchanting as a lovely smile.
Even if you're extremely overweight, there's still no point feeling guilty about it. Why not? Because, as I've just said, guilt makes us fatter. Much better to get on with enjoying life and attend to your weight when the mood takes you. If you feel like dieting, fine. If you don't, then don't.
Of course, you won't be able to stop feeling guilty about things overnight. After all, you've been brainwashed for so long that it's probably second nature to you to feel guilty about something. However, there comes a time in all our lives when we have to say 'Enough is enough!' and try to make a new start.
So why not have a go? Why not stop feeling like a war criminal and give yourself a bit of credit for a change?
We women have been made to feel guilty for far too long. It's time we started to take pride in all the things we do, rather than worry about the few things we don't. Get the message?